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Sexual Appeal
« on: April 30, 2017, 03:32:36 AM »


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A few weeks ago I ran across a You Tube Video of an acoustic performance of "Joey" by the band Concrete Blond.  They were a 90s Alternative Rock Band that never got super popular, and this was their biggest hit, but they did last pretty long into the early 2000s.  I wasn't a big fan of this band, but I remember the song Joey very well and in my trucking years it played fairly often on the radio on the alt-rock and college stations I tuned into in those years as I cruised the interstate across the country.



Inside the Diner, we run a continuing thread with favorite Music Videos called the Diner Juke Box, and a while back I put up the Vevo Official Music Video of Joey.  But then in doing my general nightly music scan of old music I like to listen to periodically, I ran into another video with Joey as the tune behind it, put together by a fan with still images of their performances as the visual accompanyment.  What struck me in watching that video was the astonishing resemblance of the lead singer of Concrete Blonde Johnette Napolitano to another favorite singer of mine from the 60s, Janis Joplin.






I thought at first that Johnette was a lot younger than she actually is (she's still alive) and might have been the reincarnation of Janis, but after a bit of Google Research I discovered that Johnette is just about precisely my age, born just 22 days after me in 1957.



Then after doing more searching this time on You Tube directly instead of Google, I turned up yet another video version of Joey, a Live performance on Dennis Miller's show in 1992.  At this time, Johnette was 35 years old like me and garbed out in a mini-skirt and looking HOT!






Now, let's return to reality here.  How many 35 year old women can garb up in a mini-skirt and look this good?  It was a small number in the 1990's, and it's even smaller today.  MOST 35 year old women today look more like this:



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OK, maybe not that fat, but I could have Googled truly OBESE women (or men), of which there are many cruising the aisles at Walmart everyday. The percentage of highly attractive 35 year old people of either sex wandering around there is quite small these days, except on TV shows or in the Movies.



Call me SHALLOW if you want to, but I just do not have nor did I ever have any sexual attraction to a really FAT person.  Nor do I have any attraction to really UGLY people, OLD people or to really STUPID people either.  I am (or was) also highly conventional in my sexual attraction to others.  I wasn't "polysexual, "ambi-sexual", "multi-sexual" or any of the other modern New Age definitions of sexuality or gender identity, I was an old fashioned heterosexual.  Nowadays, I am an ASEXUAL, and we asexuals are given the short shrift overall in discussions of sexuality.  Which is kind of remarkable since there appear to be a growing number of asexual people out there.



Today, I find the whole idea of sex to be gross.  Even if I do see a female who is sexually appealing to my old self, then I think about all the rutting around and it grosses me out.  lol.  I can't even look at Movie Star quality females anymore and get sexually aroused by them.  I can't look at Nudie Pics of females in Porn Magazines without thinking about the gross and disgusting acts to be done in the process of having sex. lol. It's even worse if it's a hard core porn magazine depicting sex acts in graphic detail.  I haven't seen one of those in over a decade, but the last time I did I wanted to heave the technicolor yawn.






So anyhow, going back to the old days when I was being led around by the needs of my Johnson to get laid, my conventional sexual attraction to only females plus the fact I eliminated anyone who was FAT, UGLY, OLD, or STUPID, it of course seriously limited my choices in places I could put the Sausage when I got the urge.  Fortunately in my younger days I was sufficiently appealing myself to Quality Females that I managed to find a few who also met my standards.  Maybe about 50 different ones across my rutting lifespan, with most of those occuring between the ages of 18 & 30.  This cross-appeal issue does limit your selection, because not only does the female have to be sexually appealing to you, YOU have to be sexually appealing to HER too!  So if 1 in 20 females appeal to me, and I only appeal to 1 in 20 females, that means there is only a 1 in 400 chance of hooking up with the right female!  Those are actually pretty good odds overall, if you get FAT or get OLD & UGLY, it's more like only 1:1000 females would find you attractive,and only 1:1000 people would find them attractive, meaning it's a 1:1,000,000 chance the two of you would find each other to have blissful moments of rutting.



Today, I can't even IMAGINE any reasonably attractive female that would want to have sex with a decrepit old cripple like myself, even if I was interested in doing the rutting AND would pay her vast sums of money too. lol.  Going the other way, would I be the least bit interested in fucking the 60 year old Johnette Napolitano or Grace Slick or Patti Smyth of today?  Hell no!  They're all OLD BAGS now!  In my memories and in my dreams, they are still the hot young chicks they were in 1987 or even earlier, when we were all around 20-30 or so.  But today?  They're all somewhat better maintained then the average 60+ female, but still are saggy and wrinkly just like me!  Imagine a Porn Movie with 2 old wrinkly people as the Porn Stars. Would you go see this movie as a turn on or download it off the internet on Netflix?  Not a chance. This one dies a quick death at the Box Office.



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Not only that, but also the whole driver of procreation is no longer there either to rut with a 60 year old female, menopause is in the rear view mirror (OK, rarely women in their 60s are still fertile and get pregnant, the record on this one is around 70 by some Indian woman).  So, practical guy that I am, this whole bizness seems like a big waste of time & energy to me now.



Of course, some old married people keep their sex lives going long after the chicks have left the nest and long after their good looks are gone.  This I think is done through a combination of Nostalgia and Imagination.  Usually sex is done in the dark in bed, so you don't actually SEE the other person, except in your mind's eye, where you probably visualize them as they looked when you first married them.  So that is OK too for these folks, but on average as time goes by married people have less sex all the time.  When you're first married, you do it every night.  After 10 years of marriage, you probably are down to twice a week.  After 30 years of marriage, if you do it once a month that is probably a lot. lol.



Generally speaking as a biological function, sex is fun and appealing from around the time you reach puberty to maybe 50-60 years old, but after that it loses its appeal overall.  The best sex years are from around age 20-40 I think, although the early experimentation years are fun too.  After you have spent say 30 years doing it though, I don't see much point to it thereafter.  Your mileage may vary on this though.  lol.



Sex?  GOODBYE TO YOU!



Patty Smyth then…






…and Patty Smythe now…






Not bad for a woman in her 50s, but still not the Patty Smyth of 1982, which is the one I keep in my mind's eye.


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Re: Sexual Appeal
« Reply #1 on: April 30, 2017, 03:52:31 AM »
You know RE, the Wilson sisters have put on some poundages & still knock it out of the park at 60.

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« Reply #2 on: April 30, 2017, 04:43:23 AM »
You know RE, the Wilson sisters have put on some poundages & still knock it out of the park at 60.

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You do know that Heart broke up recently due to an altercation between Ann's husband and Nancy two sons, right?

I didn't say these old fat women couldn't rock anymore.  I just said I don't find them sexually appealing anymore.   If I want memories of that, I have to YooToob up a video from the 70s.

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« Reply #3 on: April 30, 2017, 04:51:25 AM »
Agreed! I get turned on occasionally at 64 years old. I masturbate maybe once every 4 months just to keep that "charka" open. The other monk here I have known for 26 years. She and I were lovers for about 10 years, and have had sex in the monastery twice over the earlier times when she would visit. It just so happened that she was finished with raising her son after the elder monk died in 2004, the youngest monk left, and the middle monk left to raise a child he begot. I was here alone, and working constantly, cleaning houses in town, cooking for myself, and taking care of the monastery grounds. The elder monk , before he died, kept asking why she wasn't here yet. Weird! He knew she was going to be here someday. So she moved in about 2006. She is my closest spiritual friend. We both have had no interest in sex for 10 years. She is a true monastic, and has grown up inside herself, and has matured into a very fine human being.
  But just as it was before I reached the age of puberty, sex seems like a really gross activity to me now, and we both have better things to do than pretend to keep our sexual relationship going, so we fill our time with much more interesting activities.   
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« Reply #4 on: April 30, 2017, 05:03:16 AM »
You know RE, the Wilson sisters have put on some poundages & still knock it out of the park at 60.

<a href="http://www.youtube.com/v/QM8vUcIlibI&fs=1" target="_blank" class="new_win">http://www.youtube.com/v/QM8vUcIlibI&fs=1</a>

You do know that Heart broke up recently due to an altercation between Ann's husband and Nancy two sons, right?

I didn't say these old fat women couldn't rock anymore.  I just said I don't find them sexually appealing anymore.   If I want memories of that, I have to YooToob up a video from the 70s.

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I find the Wilson sisters appealing. I'm like Knarf, sex today is take it or leave it.
I've had loads of fun over the decades. Some crazy memories.
Having lunch out at the lodge in Peach Springs or at the Grand Canyon Caverns with a hostage I've commandeered for the day works for me.

Rentals are much more satisfying than the contractual stepford wives for me now.
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« Reply #5 on: April 30, 2017, 06:10:50 AM »
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« Reply #6 on: April 30, 2017, 06:17:33 AM »
Rentals are much more satisfying than the contractual stepford wives for me now.

Rentals never appealed to me.  I tried one once, a legal one in Amsterdam.  Felt like I was doing a science experiment.

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« Reply #7 on: April 30, 2017, 07:29:04 AM »
Call me SHALLOW if you want to, but I just do not have nor did I ever have any sexual attraction to a really <strong>FAT</strong> person.  Nor do I have any attraction to really UGLY people, OLD people or to really STUPID people either.  I am (or was) also highly conventional in my sexual attraction to others.  I wasn't "polysexual, "ambi-sexual", "multi-sexual" or any of the other modern New Age definitions of sexuality or gender identity, I was an old fashioned heterosexual.  Nowadays, I am an ASEXUAL, and we asexuals are given the short shrift overall in discussions of sexuality.  Which is kind of remarkable since there appear to be a growing number of asexual people out there.

Is that true? I was always under the impression you got hard ons for seeing a pigman die! But seriously sexual drive/orientation is something personal to each person that is dependent to age, genetics, diet, social attitudes/expectations and life experiences.

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« Reply #8 on: April 30, 2017, 07:56:01 AM »
Call me SHALLOW if you want to, but I just do not have nor did I ever have any sexual attraction to a really <strong>FAT</strong> person.  Nor do I have any attraction to really UGLY people, OLD people or to really STUPID people either.  I am (or was) also highly conventional in my sexual attraction to others.  I wasn't "polysexual, "ambi-sexual", "multi-sexual" or any of the other modern New Age definitions of sexuality or gender identity, I was an old fashioned heterosexual.  Nowadays, I am an ASEXUAL, and we asexuals are given the short shrift overall in discussions of sexuality.  Which is kind of remarkable since there appear to be a growing number of asexual people out there.

Is that true? I was always under the impression you got hard ons for seeing a pigman die!

I have yet to experience this pleasure.  I will report on what Mr. Johnson does if it happens before I buy my ticket to the Great Beyond though.  :icon_sunny:

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« Reply #9 on: April 30, 2017, 11:11:09 AM »
The way men mature sexually has everything to do with whether or not they are an emotional or a physical sexual type. Most of us on the Diner are emos, including at least me, RE, Knarf, and Palloy. (My educated guesses, could be wrong. Not trying to label anyone.)

 Emos have no real difficulty in moving past sex as a routine way to recharge their psychic batteries. Physicals, on the other hand, are quite dependent on getting laid as a means of keeping their bodies and minds functioning normally.


http://lifeisanartform.com/2011/summaries/the-art-of-relationship-emotional-physical-sexuality/

Sexual relationships are about more than bumping uglies. They are about intimacy. We never outgrow the need for intimacy, and two people who grow old together see themselves through the eyes of their younger selves. Do you personally feel old, ever? Certainly not until one starts to noticeably lose function. I feel (on the inside) exactly how I felt when I was young.

 My partner, in my eyes, is the same woman I fell in love with at 23, just more realized and beautiful. Of course, my partner is an exercise junkie who runs five miles at least once a week, at age 63. She is exceptional.
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« Reply #10 on: April 30, 2017, 12:42:42 PM »
Damn, good for her, Ed.  :emthup:
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« Reply #11 on: April 30, 2017, 02:18:45 PM »
Sexual relationships are about more than bumping uglies. They are about intimacy. We never outgrow the need for intimacy

Never say never.  I haven't been "intimate" with anyone emotionally or physically for over a decade, so it's obviously not necessary for living.

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https://sp.yimg.com/xj/th?id=OIP.M0921fbca5260ac17243feb04f171b932H0&pid=15.1&P=0&w=300&h=300 A few weeks ago I wrote an article on Sexual Appeal, taking a look at what Homo Saps find appealing, colored of course by my own personal lens and experience.  A generally male-centric and heterosexual centric view of this overall, I'm sure LGBTQ people have a completely different take on it.  As a former Satyr, one time serial monogamist and current celibate monk I have a reasonably large swath of experience to draw on for making such analysis.  Not everyone agrees with all of it, there was particularly some dispute over  sexual appeal for older married people.  That's not in my experience bag to draw from, so there I am just speculating.



This week, an off topic thread, the Trumpty-Dumpty POTUS thread accidentally brought the sex  appeal issue back into the forefront of my consciousness.  I likened El Trumpo's behavior as POTUS to some lyrics from an REO Speedwagon Pop Tune, "Take it on the Run".



But I know the neighborhood

And talk is cheap when the story is good

And the tales grow taller on down the line

So I'm telling you, babe

That I don't think it's true, babe

Or even if it is keep this in mind

You take it on the run baby

If that's the way you want it baby

Then I don't want you around

I don't believe it, not for a minute

You're under the gun so you take it on the run



Just like someone who has been cheating on their significant other, The Donald is perpetually making up lies and stories to try and cover up his indiscretions.  He probably has had a lot of practice with that in the world of sexual relationships as well as in his bizness dealings and now in politics too.  That doesn't necessarily mean he is very good at it, just that he has had a lot of practice and is now a habitual liar. The thing about such people is that they always get tripped up by their own lies, because they tell so many of them they can no longer keep track and keep them self-consistent.  Even worse of course if you have a large staff and press spokespeople who are unaware of the latest lie you concocted on Twitter over breakfast.  So the longer this clown show goes on, the deeper the hole gets for His Trumpness.



Anyhow, back to the topic of sexual appeal, which is the focus of this post, not the pathological lying of the Clown-in-Chief.



http://images.complex.com/complex/image/upload/c_limit,w_680/fl_lossy,pg_1,q_auto/wmdljltgayn9bru1e3zn.jpg Having decided to use the "Take it on the Run" metaphor in one of my Inside the Diner posts, I headed over to Utoob to find a vid to embed, and the first one I encountered is the one you see at the top of page here in the Header.  It features a bunch of Models with the kind of look popular in Fashion Magazines of the era, shot mostly in arty Black & White with the models making a lot of pouty come-hither looks for the camera.  The models are all quite young, I'd estimate between 16-22 the oldest.



Now of course in modern Amerika the 16-17 year olds are not fair game for anyone over 18, but that doesn't stop the fashion photographers from dressing them up to look HOT, and as long as the clothing nominally covers all the important body parts, it's perfectly legal to sex doll them up for a fashion shoot.  The girls/women doing this stuff are definitely coached by the photographers (usually male, but not always) on how to make sexy "bedroom eyes" looks at the camera, but in truth they don't usually need much coaching for this, because somewhere around when they hit puberty, they realized they were HOT and began practicing on their own in front of the mirror to tease the boys in their school.



This selection of models reminds me of all the HOTTEST girls at Summer Camp, in High School and in College from when I was around 10-25.  Well, we didn't have too many of them in my HS, since it was a Science & Math HS for nerds which only 3 years earlier had gone Co-Ed, but there were even there at least a couple of pretty hot ones around.  In college, there were quite a few, not just girls from Barnard, Columbia's sister-school from when they were gender segregated (where my Illuminati Spawn girlfriend was enrolled), but also from FIT, Fashion Institute of Technology where more than half the women students were hot tickets.



So these were the girls/women you chased after, starting in mainly your teen years after you yourself also passed puberty ( I got an early start, I didn't wait for puberty. lol.  My first real girlfriend was in the 4th Grade, her name was Lynn.  I had a crush on an older teenage girl Monica when I was in 2nd Grade in Brasil and also on my 2nd grade teacher Miss Ellen who was probably in her mid-20s, but I never got to hold hands with either of them. ūüôĀ  I did get to sit on Miss Ellen's lap a few times though. ūüôā ).  Generally speaking also in the early teen years you would get rebuffed after being given the Bedroom Eyes look, and then all the girls would gather together in a Gaggle and Giggle over your impetuousity to think that you were good enough to go out with them!  One has to have a strong constitution as a male to get a lot of these rejections and maintain your sense of self-esteem.  Persistence does pay off though, and if you keep knocking on the door, eventually you get one to open up and invite you in. ūüôā (sorta like the Jehovah's Witnesses. hahahahahaha.)



Unfortunately, as often as not and perhaps more often, you find that what is behind the pretty face and hot bod is not what you thought it would be in your fantasies.  The girl had spent so much of her early teen years on developing her "look" and flaunting her fabulous bod at anyone who would look at it and pay attention to her that she never got round to developing anything else in her personality.  Or the personality that did develop was so wickedly narcissistic that after a couple of weeks you were sick to death of her.  Besides both of those downsides, said hot tickets were almost always very high maintenance, as in you had to sport a nice fat wallet to afford to take them out to the best restaurants, drive them around in the latest model carz and bring them home to a nice spacious renovated loft in SoHo, not to a closet sized studio on the Lower East Side (before it was gentrified), or worse yet, your moms' house in the upstairs apartment.  Scoring Hot Tickets for me went downhill fast in this period.  Once you pass a certain age and your wallet waistline shrinks past a certain point, this class of women becomes unavailable to you.  You're not even circulating in the same environment as them either, as you did at camp, in HS and in College.  The only time you might run into one of them is at some trendy club if you could get in, and then you better have a spoon to stuff up their noses if you want to get some attention.  You do NOT run into them at Walmart! lol.



http://www.internetdict.com/wp-content/uploads/related_images/2016/01/19/how-to-be-a-waitress_1.jpg So for myself, once off the Wall Street Gravy Train, I stopped chasing after the REALLY hot tickets and stepped it down a notch to more conventionally "pretty girls" who weren't quite so obsessed with how they looked, although if you dropped the makeup and hot clothing on them in some cases would have been as visually appealing as the model girls.  That was the serial monogamy phase and carried me through the rest of my sexually motivated relationships until I went the celibate monastic route about a decade ago.



What you find sexually appealing has tons to do with very early childhood visual impressions, which include both the people who surround you (your parents and relatives the most early), and then later what you are exposed to in the media, TV, Film, Fashion Magazines, Rock Stars and so forth.  Music in fact provides a very good analogy, because you also tend to remain attracted to the music you were exposed to in your early teens and twenties as the music you listen to for the rest of your lifetime.



https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/e6/db/29/e6db295e15bc00a300c2990406473426.jpg My mom for example was a big Frank Sinatra fan, going well into the 1970s when the "Chairman of the Board" still had a fairly solid fan club of former 1940s era Teeny Boppers, of which my mom was one.  Even though Rock & Roll from the Boomer generation had mostly taken over the airwaves by the 1970s, there still were a few AM stations featuring the tunes of Frank, Tony Bennett, Bing Crosby,  Andy Williams, Johnny Mathis and others.  Those were the tunes she liked to listen to, while I suspect wistfully remembering her teenage years.



Thing is here, you can most certainly listen to your favorite tunes from your youth, for me that includes bands like the Jefferson Airplane, Pink Floyd, Jethro Tull, the Moody Blues as well as all the Folk Singers of the era, but you can't really go back and chase down the Hot Tickets anymore.  To paraphrase Bruce Springsteen in My Hometown, "Those Girls are Gone for you now RE, and they ain't never comin' back".  lol.



In looking back on it all now, the sex drive aspect of life was a major time and energy waster for me.  I'm not saying that is true for everyone, but it was true for me.  I'm also not saying that it's a waste of time to look for companionship and love in your life, people are social animals and tend to need that, especially early on in life.  You seek and need approval from your parents and mentors and your peers.  You want somebody you can trust to tell your deepest darkest thoughts to and unload on when you feel overwhelmed.  For me, sexual appeal actually got in the way of that, because the type of physically appealing female I was attracted to was often quite unsuited for any of that.



I also am DEFINITELY not saying that if I had it to do all over again I would have given it all up as soon as I hit puberty and become a celibate monk back then!  It was a lot of fun doing all that skirt chasing!  Of course, I paid the price for it too with a lot of angst and suffering.  For every Honeymoon, there was a Divorce too to work through.  What I AM saying is I'm glad it's all over and done with! lol.  In the selective memory disc of my mind, I can save all the good times and delete all the bad ones.  I remember enough of the bad ones though that whenever I wake up alone in my digs in the middle of the night, I am grateful for the fact that there is nobody else here in the bed next to me.


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« Reply #13 on: May 17, 2017, 08:44:06 AM »
Women who are hot when they're 16 often look pretty high mileage by the time they're 40. Other women just look better and better. My favorite example would Katherine Hepburn, who aged so well that she looked great when she was well into her 80's. I was blessed with a partner who has aged very well, and she's still very attractive, and hopefully will still be when I'm gone.

Male sexuality has that part of it where we're prone to being attracted to someone new and different, no matter how good our relationship might be, or how hot our partner might be, if we have one.

I will say that the seventh decade has begun to free me from that kind of foolishness. It's easier now for me to appreciate the woman I have, and to try to deepen our relationship. I no longer look at other women much. I still have sex drive and full function, but love trumps sex, and companionship is at least as important as sex. And my partner has done and keeps doing so much to make herself completely indispensable to me. I fear death far less than losing her. I simply don't know what I'd do. It would be the greatest of life's challenges to go on.

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« Reply #14 on: May 17, 2017, 09:08:24 AM »
Women who are hot when they're 16 often look pretty high mileage by the time they're 40. Other women just look better and better. My favorite example would Katherine Hepburn, who aged so well that she looked great when she was well into her 80's. I was blessed with a partner who has aged very well, and she's still very attractive, and hopefully will still be when I'm gone.

Male sexuality has that part of it where we're prone to being attracted to someone new and different, no matter how good our relationship might be, or how hot our partner might be, if we have one.

I will say that the seventh decade has begun to free me from that kind of foolishness. It's easier now for me to appreciate the woman I have, and to try to deepen our relationship. I no longer look at other women much. I still have sex drive and full function, but love trumps sex, and companionship is at least as important as sex. And my partner has done and keeps doing so much to make herself completely indispensable to me. I fear death far less than losing her. I simply don't know what I'd do. It would be the greatest of life's challenges to go on.

We have diametrically opposed life experience, and besides that our aesthetics are very different.  I personally did not find Katherine Hepburn the least bit attractive even in her 40's, much less at age 80.


She looked GREAT in her 20s though!


As to being unable to continue after the loss of a lifelong partner, it's very common that when one dies, the other dies shortly thereafter.  This is not a problem for celibate monks.  We die on our own, in our own time.

RE
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